Prime hunting spot for LMs

Slowly, over time I heard and saw how easily the man who abused me, who we will call LM (for lying manipulator) did what he did, how easily the lies came, how thick the weave of deception went, and I also learned about the reactions of other men to his lies and cheating as well as his community of fellow cheaters.

One time LM called a hotel where he had stayed many times over the years for business and spoke to a clerk he knew. He was laughing and joking and said - hey Joe (or whatever his name was) I need you to do me a favor, LM has been a bad boy, so if anyone calls and asks if I stayed there last night, I did. Joe said no problem and they both laughed and laughed. In reality we had stayed in another town. I remember the month, year and hotel where this happened.

What is really sad is this hotel is in a city less than two hours away, so there was never any reason for him to spend the night there for business - really, it was a joke. He did it for two reasons; one because for a very long time he had a girlfriend in that town, and, well, he wanted it to be convenient for her of course, because after all she was married too, until he destroyed that marriage too - and the second, even more important reason, is that the hotel was right next to a large hotel-convention center. The bar there was a prime hunting spot of his with all the convention and meeting business.

He didn't realize I heard him say this and it gave me a really sick feeling. He was extremely secretive and did everything he could not to let me see who he really was and how he operated. In spite of the fact that he was telling me he wanted to be a different kind of man and was completely changed because of his love for me, he was still a consummate abuser - he needed to protect his methods of deception so that he could manipulate and abuse me when it benefited him.

Of course he quickly apologized and made excuses and went on about how happy he was that soon he would be free of his horrible wife and marriage and never have to live like this anymore.

It was a glimpse, a sign, a warning of who he was. Yes, we all tell lies and do things we are not proud of, or even understand at times. But this was different, it was cold and calculating, and he could go right into this character and right back out in a split second.

This joking about cheating and women with other men was shocking to me and I will go into more in depth in other posts.