PRETENDER:

actor, charlatan, deceiver, fake, faker, fraud, hypocrite, imitator, impostor, phony

 

Please don't lie to someone who trusts you, someone you have asked to trust you, asked to love and believe in you.  Don't lie to someone who holds and heals you.  Don't use them and strip their goodness away.  They will never be the same.

More Stories to Come

her affair

little league      the baseball bat      long walk past neighbors      

hawaii       chores         california  

I don't have any friends    

three's a crowd          lesbians  

lance to the heart      

no coaching allowed

         I'm sick of golf        buddha    

the sky is falling      walking in the rain

grocery money         fantasy life            

mother, father, sister    

  I'll pick you up   what's your sign  

tired since i met you      

you're the only one    

hey, how you doing              

 

 

One Woman's Truth

“What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life?  The world would split open.
-Muriel Rukeyser

 

Each of us has a truth of our own buried deep inside, a boundless sea of thought, feeling, emotion, upon which our outward persona sails, dark and stormy, calm and flowing, these are the currents that give us life. We humans are as fragile as any ship ever built and exposing our inner selves is not something we do naturally, an evolutional safety. Once or twice in a life time we may meet someone we feel safe enough with to open our harbor gates and let our true selves flow. It is both a thrilling and frightening voyage, and when it happens, changes us forever.

Being betrayed by someone you trust, changes you even more.

A story of betrayal is never just one story for betrayals don't come that way, they develop from a long legacy of betrayals. The person capable of betraying is incapable of certain thoughts and emotions, and operates from a deficit of character, predictably scripted by a scarcity of human bonding, repeated lacks of nurturing and acceptance.

When our reality has been shattered, we lose all faith and belief in ourselves, in life and the world around us. The one thing we all have, that no one can ever take away from us, is our truth.


 

 

Thursday
May272010

poor poor me game

"Does anybody really believe that James cheated because of his dad's abuse? It is a cop-out at best and a flat out lie at worst. It was said in order to gain sympathy from the audience when in reality he deserves no sympathy at all. This whole apology tour is intended to do one thing and that is to make people feel sorry for him."

--http://metrowny.com/blogs/archives/690-Jesse-James-interview-leaves-Michelle-Bombshell-McGee-upset-75b0xw00d.html

 

An individual who commits serial adultery, doing the same thing with woman after woman, and with multiple women at a time, year after year, after year - has deeply ingrained formulas and routines that he, or she, uses. 

The number one method: making others feel sorry for him.  Take note, it is the primary and universal method of this kind of abuser. 

My abuser was an expert at it. He solicited my sympathies on a daily basis for an endless parade of things. His marriage, his job, his childhood, his lack of friends, fun, money, sex, well - you get the picture.

I saw and heard him use this routine with countless others too; and - he is still using it.  In fact, it is now all he has.

He destroyed my life with lies and deceit, and unbelievably goes around asking others to feel sorry for him, even as he enlists them to carry out his revenge, of course the only people he can find to do this are people he has to pay. This is when you know that you are dealing with a personality disorder.

 

  • Instead of actually changing......
  • Instead of taking accountability for their actions......
  • Instead of honoring the truth.....
  • Instead of acting with integrity toward the people they have damaged.....

 

They continue doing what they have always done. They play the poor poor me game -- yet again.

They make excuses, cry and complain, point fingers and blame. 

The vast majority of people, who all make mistakes, do not do this.  People with any self respect or integrity, do not do this. 

Never.      

Period. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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