PRETENDER:

actor, charlatan, deceiver, fake, faker, fraud, hypocrite, imitator, impostor, phony

 

Please don't lie to someone who trusts you, someone you have asked to trust you, asked to love and believe in you.  Don't lie to someone who holds and heals you.  Don't use them and strip their goodness away.  They will never be the same.

More Stories to Come

her affair

little league      the baseball bat      long walk past neighbors      

hawaii       chores         california  

I don't have any friends    

three's a crowd          lesbians  

lance to the heart      

no coaching allowed

         I'm sick of golf        buddha    

the sky is falling      walking in the rain

grocery money         fantasy life            

mother, father, sister    

  I'll pick you up   what's your sign  

tired since i met you      

you're the only one    

hey, how you doing              

 

 

One Woman's Truth

“What would happen if one woman told the truth about her life?  The world would split open.
-Muriel Rukeyser

 

Each of us has a truth of our own buried deep inside, a boundless sea of thought, feeling, emotion, upon which our outward persona sails, dark and stormy, calm and flowing, these are the currents that give us life. We humans are as fragile as any ship ever built and exposing our inner selves is not something we do naturally, an evolutional safety. Once or twice in a life time we may meet someone we feel safe enough with to open our harbor gates and let our true selves flow. It is both a thrilling and frightening voyage, and when it happens, changes us forever.

Being betrayed by someone you trust, changes you even more.

A story of betrayal is never just one story for betrayals don't come that way, they develop from a long legacy of betrayals. The person capable of betraying is incapable of certain thoughts and emotions, and operates from a deficit of character, predictably scripted by a scarcity of human bonding, repeated lacks of nurturing and acceptance.

When our reality has been shattered, we lose all faith and belief in ourselves, in life and the world around us. The one thing we all have, that no one can ever take away from us, is our truth.


 

 

Tuesday
Dec222009

Tiger's & Other Tiger's Minor Blip

In USA Today Sandy Grady weighs in on the Tiger Woods story with a view that has been of the minority in the press. Mr. Grady doesn't question the fact that Tiger will be a champion again on the golf course or that his legions of fans will welcome him back. He does however, disagree with Phil Knight that "you'll look back at these indiscretions as a minor blip."  

Gee, do you think Mr. Knight's company has anything to gain from his espousing this belief?

I guarantee you this will never be a minor blip in the life of Elin Woods or any of the other women, children and families involved.

Mr. Grady has the character to acknowledge in the press what is glaringly obvious to everyone - that Tiger Woods didn't just make one little mistake, but that he has a severe personality disorder, a narcissistic addiction, one that caused him to recklessly damaged not just the game of golf, it's legends, patrons and traditions, but more importantly the hearts of those he loved and that trusted him.

Another news personality, Mika Brzezinski of MSNBC also questioned Tiger's ability to escape unscathed. In a refreshingly intelligent manner she showed her disdain and lack of interest in the titillation aspect and said that she thought this scandal will have a long term impact on Mr. Woods endorsing products and representing companies.

Mr. Grady went on to quote the Bible and the man whose birthday we celebrate this week. Jesus said "for what is a man profited, if he should gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?"

My narcissistic abuser and I talked about this all the time, only how staying in his marriage that was a sham for the sake of his son had caused him to lose his soul, as I lovingly tried to restore the faith, love and goodness he had lost. I asked him to be compassionate and generous to the woman he wanted no part of and said he never should have married, but when he did a jekyll / hyde and decided to stay there, he turned on me and they both set out to do whatever damage they could.  Just a minor blip, that's all my life, my children's lives and my sacrifices were.

Mr. Grady applauds Tiger for taking a break from golf and hopefully trying to restore the trust of his wife, trust that he will need as a father whether they stay married or not. 

That trust, however, will not be restored based on lies, denials and more of the behavior responsible for the destruction of his marriage and life. That is exactly what my NA did, went right back to what he had always been and always done.

He did not tell the truth about anything and to top it off he attacked and threatened me to keep his wife from the truth, and - he refused to apologize.

Wonder what the media, and the world, would say about Tiger Woods if he did that. 

http://blogs.usatoday.com/oped/2009/12/column-tigers-comeback-itll-be-a-treacherous-course.html?loc=interstitialskip

 

 

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